“it’s not my fault,”
i can find much more spaciousness
for what the other person is feeling…
~reflections on navigating conflict in relationship~
on holding space for the ways in which i disappoint others.
if i can make their emotional experience
something i don’t need to feel responsibility for,
i am able to show up more freely.
without malice, shame, regret.
but a full appreciation for each other’s humanity.
and the ways in which hurting each other
is an indication
that we are alive.
— thoughts prompted by a point made by ashe phoenix on the Dear Jessamyn podcast